The “Tell Me When”Some Black women believe that having semen in your mouth is nasty, unclean, or just too freaky. These women may not be afraid to participate in oral sex, but will ask their lover to tell her when he’s about to climax so that she has time to remove her mouth and get out of the way. Where women disagree on this method is that some say it can be seen as rude or ruin the mood for men, but women who practice it feel turned off by the idea of having semen in their mouth or feel that should be saved for their husband or at least serious boyfriend.
The “Catch and Release”Some Black women don’t mind having semen in their mouth but are totally against the idea of swallowing it. Again, the disagreement among women is that the act of semen in her mouth should be for a husband and that completing such an act with a “random” or “buddy” is uncouth or loose, while others feel it allows the man to feel the full sensation of release without requiring the woman to commit to swallowing.
The “Big Gulp”Some Black women don’t mind swallowing a man’s semen at the conclusion of oral sex. They feel it is a natural progression of the act of oral sex, while others feel that swallowing is an intimate act and privilege only for a man who puts a ring on it. Again, stigma may be put on the woman who does not hold these same beliefs.
The “Mask”The seemingly most taboo among Black women is allowing a man to ejaculate his semen on her face. Some Black women express that this act is one of disrespect, and it is meant only for “porn stars and groupies.” Other Black women view it as another level of freaky reserved for husbands only, and some Black women look at it as preference and lets the man decide where he “shoots and fires,” regardless of the seriousness of their relationship. While where to let a man climax during oral sex is still an area of varied disagreement in the Black community, communication is always the most important aspect to ensure everyone’s happy when it’s all said and done. This is where this writer feels Issa failed in the latest Insecure episode. Perhaps, the “accident” will gain more discussion in the rest of the season. Stay tuned.