Is Austin Perfect or Poison for Black People Looking for Black Love?

Austin may not have the Black quantity, but it does have the Black quality.
The Black dating scene in Austin is a topic of much debate. Some say it’s sad and hopeless. Others say it’s a great place to find someone with whom you can build your dream relationship. Austin is both perfect and poison if you’re Black looking for Black love. Here’s why:

Poison: The numbers don’t look good, fam

Black newcomers to Austin typically ask the same thing: Where are all the Black people? Compared to Houston and Dallas, Austin has a lower Black population (though it’s been steady percentage wise holding at near 8% in the greater Austin metropolitan statistical area since 2000). Your number of eligible mates shrinks even more depending on your standards like education, income, physical appearance, age, and those only interested in “Netflix and Chill.”

Poison: Caught up in the swirl

The streets seem to be filled with interracial couples. Texas is one of the top 20 states for it. From interviews with Black women here, there is a consensus that it seems like Black men dating white women is a more common occurrence than vice versa. Nationally, statistics show Black men are twice as likely to marry outside of their race than Black women. There’s nothing wrong with “getting your swirl on,” but if you’re a Black person looking for Black love, this can be a disappointing blow to your dating pool.

Poison:  It’s Never-Never land

Austin is home to the University of Texas, and while there are families here, that still gives the city a college-town vibe, allowing adults to essentially never grow up. With people in their 30s and 40s still in the party scene looking to “hook up,” dating apps like Tinder and Soul Swipe are breeding grounds for booty calls over love, and situationships as the norm, Austin proves to be troublesome for someone looking for a lasting relationship.
Austin may not have the Black quantity, but it does have the Black quality

Perfect: Influx of the young and successful

With 159 people moving here every day, you’re more likely to find educated, successful business owners, artists, and professionals. Austin may not have the Black quantity, but it does have the Black quality.
Afro-Desiac Speed Dating Event

Perfect: It’s a small town, but got bigger dreams

The biggest Texas happenings are here: SXSW, Austin City Limits, Formula 1, etc. With so much to do, there are more opportunities to meet people. Who knows? Your next boo could be sitting by you at the next Drake concert.

Perfect: Future Bae doesn’t live here, but she will

From Dubai to San Francisco, people from all over the world come to Austin. Future bae may not be here for you to check out the Domain with, but Austin does put you in a better position to meet someone you wouldn’t have met have living elsewhere.

What Can I Do?

It may be true that you don’t find love, love finds you, but if Cupid is moving too slow, give these a try:
  1. Go out. No one ever fell in love cooped-up in the house. Find something you like, go do it, and you might meet someone you like, too. Check out Young Black Austin.
  2. Attend networking events. Check out Blacks in Tech and Austin Area Urban League Young Professionals.
  3. Try speed dating. Check out Afrodesiac™ Speed Dating event “for African-American men and all the women who LOVE them,” at Water 2 Wine on South Lamar on Thursday, May 25th, at 6:30pm.


  • Wow!

    This article must be for Black folks under 40 — you millennials… Cuz dating in Austin while being Black and over 40 — heck, over 50 ain’t happening. And being a Sistah who loves Black men like they are huge bowls of Amy’s Ice Cream in a 400 sq foot dream closet stock with designer shoes — I won’t settle for anything other than a delicious beautiful warrior Black man!

    So the answer to the question that’s the title of this article is, no — not for me it isn’t. That means traveling outside of Austin — Texas for more options in available, “desirable”, lively Black men — 45 and up.

    Also why do folks keep parroting the stats on how many people reportedly move to Austin everyday and not include the facts that balance those ridiculous numbers with how many people actually leave Austin everyday.

    For every 150+ people who move to Austin everyday 50-75 leave!

    The majority of the people — millennials moving to Austin don’t get involved in real community issues or engage their neighbors in any real/lasting way because the majority of those 150+ new residents will only be here for 4-5 years.

    We need more conscious Black folks moving here!

  • I agree! Ive been living in Austin for 2 years and im 43. Dating is horrible for Black women over 40 seeking long lasting relationships. I am moving back to Dallas in December and cant wait!

  • I’ve been here for 7 months from Houston. Seems many black women I meet are too reserved to go out. No felonies and misdemeanor, not fat, good employment record and stay active. I’m not perfect but everyone gets along with me for the most part. Hell , I barely drink so I’m not sure what any of them are looking for. I can’t even get aphone call unless they’re from H-Town. H-Town may be more populated and more crime but much more friendlier and approachable. Seriously thinking of moving back soon

  • It took me about a month, yes a month, after moving to Austin to see I was out of the dating demographics here. I had been coming here on and off for about 7 years ( from the DFW area) thinking ” oh, i may move to Austin, it looks so diverse”. NOT! Its a utopia for an outsider looking in especially for black folks. And please understand, the fastest growing minorities in this town isn’t even Hispanics, it’s Asians! True story. Check the recent demographics survey of Austin. So how’s the dating, horrible for black men and women honestly. White girls are all over me mostly when I’m out at bars or parties, but hardly ever return my phone calls. It’s mostly a stereotype of something they’ve heard. Most are not even actually into getting
    to know me except for small amount ( mostly unattractive, fat.. it’s the truth) The black women I meet in Austin, the attractive ones, literally walk straight past me, or give me their number with no intentions of connecting. If I get one more gay white guy hitting on me I’m knocking em out. Funny, but true. I don’t even come off that way, but that’s Austin. Is this town scared of straight black men? That’s another topic for later. John, you’re 100% in all you said. I thought once I had meet a really attractive and together ” sista” only to find out she was looking for a green card. Not attracted to me at all. Do your research before moving here. Lots of cliches, stuck up hippies, and fake liberals. Don’t believe the hype. It’s not diverse. Only for the people they want it to be…… Good luck!

  • Man , you pretty much nailed it. I met a few sistas here but not even a phone call . I really haven’t’ hit on other women much yet but I wouldn’t mind any kind of female companionship. But even when they come off as interested I get the same thing. Come off as super interested but nothing materialized as much as a phone or text return. It’s friendly here but I still can’t figure it out yet. I don’t act ghetto or even diluted. At this point I won’t try figuring it out just go about my business, work, study and who knows what may come up. Wish you the best brotha ! And same to my sistas too

  • and president of Together Rising I have laughed, I have held back tears, I have reflected with joy, hope, and hurt while reading. Austin captures perfectly the sentiment of many black people in America. She s not only telling her story, she s telling our story. Austin is a gift to the body and the culture. Lecrae, Grammy award-winning artist and bestselling author of

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